Reframe
pause, look again, choose a next thought
Pillar
cognitive reappraisal / reframing
Safety rule
Pass if the situation feels unsafe or too activated.
ReFramed helps people pause, name what is happening, reframe, and choose a safer next sentence. This guide maps each card family to one research pillar and one safety boundary.
pause, look again, choose a next thought
Pillar
cognitive reappraisal / reframing
Safety rule
Pass if the situation feels unsafe or too activated.
say the next sentence with less heat and more clarity
Pillar
empathic communication
Safety rule
Pause before using any card as a comeback.
notice what another person might be experiencing
Pillar
perspective-taking
Safety rule
Do not excuse harm; use empathy with boundaries.
own one part and make one repair move
Pillar
conflict repair
Safety rule
Accountability does not mean accepting blame that is not yours.
separate facts, interpretations, and needs
Pillar
psychological safety
Safety rule
Document patterns and seek support when safety is unclear.
check reality, ask for clarity, and slow down pressure
Pillar
accountability without blame
Safety rule
Avoid diagnosing people. Track behavior, not labels.
Every card should cite one pillar. Evidence tags keep copy honest and make facilitator use easier.
| Family | Research Pillar | Card Rule | Evidence Tag |
|---|---|---|---|
| Reframe | Cognitive reappraisal / reframing | one thought shift plus one next sentence | REAPPRAISAL |
| Communication | Empathic communication | one clear ask, reflection, or boundary | COMMUNICATION |
| Empathy | Perspective-taking | one perspective question, never mind-reading | PERSPECTIVE |
| Accountability | Conflict repair | one owned action plus one repair offer | REPAIR |
| Reality Check | Psychological safety | facts, feelings, needs, support options | SAFETY |
| Deception / CIA Literacy | Accountability without blame | document, clarify, slow pressure, seek support | REALITY |
Reframe cards ask for one alternate interpretation and one safer next sentence.
Buhle et al. meta-analysis of cognitive reappraisal neuroimaging studies; Gross, Halperin, and Porat on emotion regulation in conflict.
Say supports emotion regulation practice. Do not promise conflict resolution.
Empathy cards ask users to check another possible perspective without mind-reading.
Perspective-taking mediation and negotiation research, including controlled dialogue and role reversal studies.
Say can support empathy and feeling heard. Do not say it guarantees agreement.
Communication cards convert accusation into a clear feeling, need, or request.
Conflict communication research on I-language and communicating perspective.
Say lowers hostility risk in structured conflict. Do not imply clinical treatment.
Reality Check and Workplace Kit cards separate facts, interpretation, risk, and support.
Edmondson psychological safety research and evidence reviews.
Say supports safer team conversation norms. Do not claim to create safety alone.
Deception / CIA Literacy cards teach document, clarify, slow pressure, and seek support.
Cleveland Clinic, WomensLaw, and National Domestic Violence Hotline safety resources.
Track behavior, not labels. Avoid diagnosing abusers, narcissism, or intent.